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Day 11. Coping With Baby Loss at Christmas

11 Ideas to Help Cope with Baby Loss During Christmas

Coping ideas from those who have been through it…

Sands is a charity that supports anyone affected by the death of a baby, before, during or shortly after birth. They highlight why Christmas can be extremely challenging for those who have suffered child loss:

Christmas and other festivals can be an extremely difficult time for anyone who has been affected by pregnancy loss or the death of a baby. With so much focus on family, children and socialising, those living with loss can feel even more isolated and alone in their grief. Here at Sands we want to reach out to any bereaved families feeling this way over the festive period. You are not alone.

Sands have shared some ideas that their community found helped them during Christmas:

    1. Make or buy a special festive decoration in memory of your baby
    2. Talk about your baby with special friends and family so you have the chance to say their name out loud
    3. Donate a gift for a child who is the same age you child would be (perhaps a refuge or children’s charity)
    4. Put some time aside to sit and remember your baby, and maybe light a candle.
    5. Send a card to someone you know who has experienced pregnancy or baby loss, letting them know you are thinking of them
    6. Visit a special place for remembering your baby – somewhere that supports your well-being
    7. Leave a dedication on Sands’ Tree of Love in memory of your baby
    8. Write a Christmas card to your baby to keep in your memory box or somewhere special at home
    9. Do a random act of kindness for someone else
    10. Instead of Christmas cards or secret Santa gifts, make a donation to charity in memory of your baby
    11. Attend a Sands Light of Love Christmas service.

For more advice, see the full article on Sands’ website here.

Find Support

Sands’ Helpline is open 10am to 3pm Monday – Friday, and 6pm – 9pm Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday evenings. Call 0808 164 3332

Tommy’s Support Groups offer connection with others who may be experiencing similar emotions. Their midwives are also available for any extra support needed on their pregnancy line. Call 0800 014 7800 Monday – Friday 9am – 5pm.

The Lullaby Trust was established to reduce the number of SIDS deaths and support bereaved families. Call their bereavement support helpline on 0808 802 6868.

For a full list of organisations that provide bereavement support and information to parents who have experienced pregnancy and baby loss anywhere in the UK, see here.